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Helpful Books For Parents

Books on Divorce

• Helping Your Kids Cope with Divorce the Sandcastles Way by M. Gary

Neuman, L.M.H.C.

• Mom’s House, Dad’s House by Isolina Ricci, Ph. D.

• My Parents are Divorced, Too by Bonnie Robson, M.D.

Parenting Books

• Always Accept Me for Who I Am: Instructions from Teenagers on Raising the Perfect Parent by 147 Teens Who Know

• Carpool Tunnel Syndrome, Motherhood as Shuttle Diplomacy by Judy Gruen

• “Doing School:” How We Are Creating a Generation of Stressed Out, Materialistic, and Miseducated Students by Denise Clark Pope

• Don’t Stop Loving Me: A Reassuring Guide for Mothers of Adolescent Daughters by Ann Caron

• Healthy Teens by Alice R. McCarthy, Ph. D.

• Helping Bereaved Children by Nancy Boyd Webb

• How to Talk so Kids will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish

• Marijuana: Facts Parents Need to Know by the National Institutes of Health

• Not Much, Just Chillin’: The Hidden Lives of Middle Schoolers by Linda

Perlstein

• Odd Girl Out by Rachel Simmons

• Raising A Son by Don Elium and Jeanne Elium

• Raising Your Spirited Child by Mary Sheedy Kurcinka

• Ready or Not, Here Life Comes by Mel Levine, M.D.

• Real Boys: Rescuing Our Sons from the Myths of Boyhood by William Pollack,

Ph.D.

• Stop Negotiating with Your Teen: Strategies for Parenting Your Angry, Manipulative, Moody, or Depressed Adolescent by Janet Sasson Edgette,

Psy.D., M.P.H.

• The Difficult Child by Stanley Turecki, M.D.

• The Everything Tween Book: A Parent’s Guide to Surviving the Turbulent Preteen Years by Linda Sonna, Ph.D.

• The Myth of Laziness by Mel Levine, M.D.

• The Wonder of Boys by Michael Gurian ( 2 Copies)

• Why Bright Kids Get Poor Grades and What You Can Do About It: A Six-Step Program for Parents and Teachers by Sylvia Rimm

• You’re Wearing That? Understanding Mothers and Daughters in Conversation by Deborah Tannen

Children’s Disorders

• Appetite for Life: Inspiring Stories of Recovery from Anorexia, Bulimia, and Compulsive Overeating by Margie Ryerson

• Attention Deficit Disorder by Thom Hartmann

• Change Your Brain Change Your Life by Daniel G. Amen, M.D.

• Empowering Underachievers by Peter A. Apevak, Ph.D. and Maryann Karinch

• Generation Risk by Corky Newton

• I read It, But I Don’t Get It by Cris Tovani

Parent Resources

FAQ-for Parents

1. Can I make any special requests for my student's schedule?
During the registration process in March students are able to choose their classes which includes electives. Students receive time to choose their electives at home and register for their classes in class. They will have a one week window to register and they MUST have a parent signature on their course selection sheet prior to turning it in.  SVMS does not allow teacher requests.

2.  Can my student request a schedule change?
The counselors and administrators work extremely hard to create a schedule for every student.  During the elective selection process, students are required to mark four elective choices and four alternative elective choices. Students are advised to select their choices wisely as they will be held accountable if they receive any of their four elective choices and alternatives.  When students request a schedule change, their elective requests are reviewed. If they have received any of their four choices they are responsible to follow through with the classes they have chosen.  If a student does not receive and of their 4 elective choices, then the counselor works with the student to discuss available options.

 

3. What is the process for my student to talk with the counselors?
Giving students the opportunity to request appointments with the counselors can be an important step in the quest for independence.  The counselors are here to help students get the most out of their experience at SVMS.  The following procedures should be observed when contacting the counselor:

* Student may inform teachers that they would like to see the counselor.
* Students may stop by the counseling office before school, during a passing period, during break or lunch, or after school.
* Students can leave their counselor a note requesting an appointment.
* Students can send an email or call their counselor.

 

​4. What if my student is sick? 

​If your student is sick the Stone Valley Staff including our teachers, want your child to rest and repair while at home. If your student would like to complete any school work while they are home resting they can access their school work on school loop. 

 

Top 15 Things your Middle Schooler Wishes you knew

Top 15 Things your Middle Schooler Wishes you knew 

Rachel Vail, Huffington Post 

1. Respect me. I'm my own person, not just your kid. Sometimes I might have opinions that differ from yours. Sometimes I just want to be your baby. Respect me either way. 

2. I still want to have fun with you, and feel like home is safe and happy. Smile at me. 

3. I need to make some of my own choices, and maybe some of my own mistakes. Don't do my work for me or get me out of every jam. You don't need to be better than me at everything. Don't condescend; you don't need to impart your elderly wisdom on me if I have a problem. Please wait for me to ask for your help. If I don't ask for it, I might want to work it out for myself. Let me rant without offering advice. Sometimes that's all I really need, just to talk my way through something and for you to just listen to me.

4. Sometimes I'm going to be moody and annoyed and frustrated. You need to just let that happen (though you shouldn't let me be rude to you; that's weird and embarrassing). It might just be a mood or something might be going on that I'm not ready to talk about yet. If you hang around doing stuff near me and don't interrupt or try to solve it as soon as I start, I might feel comfortable talking with you about things. 

5. Trust that I'll do my work. If I don't, you can help me manage my time, but wait until I'm not taking care of responsibilities to think I can't. Don't just assume I can't handle responsibility because of my age. Believe in me.

6. It feels really good when you ask me to teach you about what I'm learning or what I'm good at. You don't have to be awesome at computer programming to let me teach you some cool stuff, for instance. I have to be a beginner constantly. Show me it's OK to stay relaxed and present when you are struggling to learn something.

7. I don't like the drama either, and it surprises me as much as it does you. You think it's rough having this alien lunatic in your house? Try having it in your body, and you can't even get away.

8. If you don't like my friends, it feels like you don't trust my judgment or like I am stupid about choosing friends. Or both. Ask me what I like about them, or what we have fun doing together, or just to tell you about a new friend. Stay open-minded. Still, if you think my friends are being bad to me, I need you on my side that much more. 

9. Sometimes I am completely overwhelmed and need to zone out for a while. I am not becoming a slug and will not stay in my room staring at a screen for the rest of my life. Maybe just for the rest of the afternoon.

10. I will fight you every step of the way if you make me do stuff I don't want to do (get some exercise, do my homework, write a thank-you note, practice piano, apologize to my sister, take a shower, wear deodorant... so many things), but you should probably make me do them anyway. I know I will feel better if I sweat and shower each day, and develop my study skills, and show up tomorrow prepared, and, and, and. I know! But please don't overwhelm me. I might not be able to do what I should right away. I might need reminders, later, which will annoy me completely. Remind me anyway.

11. Explain why I'm being criticized or punished. It feels scary if I don't understand anything beyond that you are mad at me. And sometimes what I need more than a scolding is a hug or a cuddle. Especially when I am more porcupine than puppy.

12. I need to have private jokes with my friends and not explain them to you. It's how we bond. You don't need to be involved in every aspect of my life to still be loved and needed by me.

13. If my social life gets to be too much, I may need you to force a little vacation from it on me. But most of time what I need is to work through how to navigate life online and with peers. Now is my chance to learn how to deal, with your help. Just shutting it down keeps me from learning how to build my life online with scaffolding provided by you. Stay calm and cool, let me explain what's going on, and talk things through with me. Ask more, tell less.

14. Especially if I've been feeling stressed, maybe you could just hang out with me. Go to the park or get an ice cream or have a catch, whatever; it feels good to just do something together without discussing or solving or teaching anything. 

15. I like it when you think I'm funny. Or interesting. Or awesome. I actually do care what you think about me. Please find something specific you actually like about me because sometimes I can't find anything in myself to like at all. I might roll my eyes, but your words and judgments do matter to me, and I will remember them, the good and the bad. I will keep them with me like treasures even when I lose my keys and wallet and ID. Which I probably will. More than once. Sorry.

And bonus extra important thing you should know: The fact that my opinions on this and anything else might change tomorrow does not mean I don't feel them fiercely today. Keep up. I love you. Remind me you still love me, too.